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Jul 22, 2020 8:57:39 GMT -7
Post by woodyz on Jul 22, 2020 8:57:39 GMT -7
I got an email from my Sister today that my Mom is almost done.
I find myself kind of resenting my Sister for the post.
It's like She intends it as a sharp jab rather than an update.
Like, "I'm, here and I'm having to deal with this everyday, and your not, so whoo is me."
I've accepted my Mother will pass, I've accepted I will not see her again before she does, I've accepted my Sister has sacrificed more then I have for my Mother in the last decade or more. I've accepted I could have been a better Son or a better Brother or whatever it is She wants, but I don't know what She wants or expects from me that She has to keep poking me with that stick.
I also find myself resenting my Granddaughter who has been visiting a couple of days and who doesn't have any discipline at all and needs a good as? whipping. My resentment should be toward her parents who have allowed her to be that way.
I resent my Son who has three birds who won't shut-up enough for me to watch the news once a day. The birds are let out of their caged and not watched and allowed to tear up what ever they will, they are allowed to ?hit where the perch outside their pen and my wife spends hours cleaning it off the floor while my Son does nothing to fix his problem.
My Son is resenting his sister who brought her family to his house where they took over his room and bathroom and spare bedroom, while he sleeps in a pop-up tent in the drive way and they just continue to stay.
I'm starting to resent her and her family too.
I wonder if these resentments will remain long after the actual reasons for them are long gone. I suspect they won't because I suspect the stress they are causing me will lead to a quicker death, at which point I won't give a shi? and the resentment will be gone.
Any comment? solutions?
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Post by solargeek1 on Jul 22, 2020 10:09:28 GMT -7
Woodyz you are too kind. Some mild suggestions. 1. Have your son cage the darn birds. They are used to being caged. Even if they're not, they'll adjust. Also have him move them out of the main living areas. You don't need to hear them day and night. It should be a treat for them to come up. Also, No one needs to be breathing in aerated bird poop. Dangerous. Causes all kinds of infections. First turns to powder and then gets aerated. I'm sure the word is aerosolized but I can't spell that-ha ha I just dictated it.
2. Speak gently but tell your sister how unkind she's being and how it makes you feel. She should hear it from someone who loves her. If she's doing it to you she's doing it to others and that's a harm to her and other people.
3. You said your son had his sister living at his house and he was living in a tent. I'm confused as to how many kids you have. However my point is that he should ask his sister to move into half the house and he gets the other half. No one should have to live like that when they own the house, and it's not his fault she made poor choices that forced her to have to move in with him.
As I said at the start of this. You're being too kind. This isn't about your legacy, this is about people realizing how selfish their actions are and taking appropriate responses to remedy that. You would be the good person to tell them. I just know that in my heart.
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Post by woodyz on Jul 25, 2020 15:08:53 GMT -7
They have cages, they are in cages, except when they are let out, which wouldn't be to bad if they were not then left to their own devices. One of these times I am just going to kill them while they are out and blame it on GOD, or maybe just open the door and agter they go out say it wasn't me.
They are in the kitchen area, I am usually in the living room or my room.
I have two daughters and a son, both daughters live in KY. One and her kids 4 are visiting because I could not travel to them this year and doubt if I could ever again.
She didn't move in with him, she is visiting us and he gave her his bedroom and bath because he was staying at his girlfriends, then he left her because she was outraged when he came home one afternoon to spend time with his sister while she was here. Yes the girlfriend is a white trash drunk, but he hasn't gone back to her since, and since he said his sister could use his room, she is and he is in a pop-up camper in the driveway. I expect he will go back, but maybe not.
I live with him or actually in a house just up the hill, but have a bedroom in his house. I moved in after he had a MC wreck and became disabled + he does not control his diabetes very well and has lows.
Maybe it would solve a few things
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Post by ColcordMama on Jul 27, 2020 12:26:07 GMT -7
I can't offer any advice, but I sure can pray for you buddy. I hope you've gone to God in prayer and asked Him to forgive you for your sins. Not saying you're a bad person, because we've all sinned. All except Jesus, who died to be a sacrifice on our behalf. This is the best help I can offer and it's said with love.
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Jul 27, 2020 12:49:22 GMT -7
Post by woodyz on Jul 27, 2020 12:49:22 GMT -7
well, I quess like CW I can just leave him and here and not offend either any longer.
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Jul 27, 2020 17:55:47 GMT -7
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Post by solargeek1 on Jul 27, 2020 17:55:47 GMT -7
well, I quess like CW I can just leave him and here and not offend either any longer. Not sure what you mean WoodyZ? Why would you think you offended anyone here? You asked us to weigh in. I really meant what I said. You are one of the kindest people I’ve met online. You constantly give good suggestions and look things up for us. We see you want us to be prepared and you put out information that is a help for all of us. I see that is a great kindness. You constantly give good suggestions and look things up for us. Do you want us to be prepared and you put out information for all of us. I see that is a great kindness. I suspect some of the situations you described arose because people who are near to you take it advantage of your kindness. Perhaps I am wrong but it was simply my thought after reading your post. I can’t imagine anyone was offended by what you posted.
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Post by crashdive123 on Jul 28, 2020 3:31:06 GMT -7
If you offended me I would let you know. You didn't.
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Post by marc on Jul 28, 2020 6:55:34 GMT -7
If you offended me I would let you know. You didn't.
Same here. Not at all.
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Post by sirderrin on Jul 29, 2020 5:01:19 GMT -7
No issues here... You are among the few I can actually respect online...
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Post by olebama on Jul 29, 2020 14:36:35 GMT -7
The only thing I can offer are my prayers and they are sent.
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Post by woodyz on Jul 29, 2020 20:09:06 GMT -7
I can't offer any advice, but I sure can pray for you buddy. I hope you've gone to God in prayer and asked Him to forgive you for your sins. Not saying you're a bad person, because we've all sinned. All except Jesus, who died to be a sacrifice on our behalf. This is the best help I can offer and it's said with love. Well, I took offense, and I came back just now to see if I had mis-understood something and was mistaken. I have been plain on here about my relationship with my GOD and I didn't believe any additional discussion was required on that subject. I was feeling ill toward several people and felt I needed to express that, I suspect, even though I have expected it, that the up coming death of my Mother, has made me more reflective toward my feelings for others. I have found that sometimes putting what I was feeling into written words helped me understand the feelings and receiving comments and advice gave me additional things to consider.
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Jul 29, 2020 22:48:15 GMT -7
Post by ColcordMama on Jul 29, 2020 22:48:15 GMT -7
Wow. I'm sorry you took offense. I have no idea what your relationship with God is and if I did, I sure never would have brought up the subject. I don't ever recall hearing you mention it.
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Post by thywar on Jul 30, 2020 12:44:14 GMT -7
Z Man. You’re like the best rock ever for this place. Never saw a bad word against you and everyone learns from you and all the great information you share. Want to know how I know you’re a great guy? You came back to verify your data and check your sight picture. Thanks for taking another look.
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Aug 1, 2020 14:28:51 GMT -7
Post by woodyz on Aug 1, 2020 14:28:51 GMT -7
My wife said maybe I should just stay away for awhile and see how that worked. So far it's working fine. I have used this place to exchange survival information, but I have also used it as a sounding board, as a crutch, and many other uses. This place has always been here for me. I have many moods and many demons and as I get older the moods and demons are winning over the good sense. I have made some friends and some enemies on here, but by far more friends. I owe it to them to leave on a good note, with the memories of past good times. Right now I have no plans to remain gone, but I'll be gone for awhile before I come back.
My wife saz I need to stay with her for at least 3 more years and make our 50th, but I will say every day seem longer and harder to finish and 3 more years seems a long ways away right now.
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Post by cowgirlup on Aug 1, 2020 18:22:22 GMT -7
I hope you check back in. You needed to vent. Everyone does at some time or another and it doesn't look like you offended anyone. This is your online support group so don't cut it out of your life. If you do need a break I hope it's a short one.
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